BEDA Day 25: Why I’m against University of Chicago’s decision

Earlier today or late yesterday, the University of Chicago’s Dean said that they will not provide safe spaces and trigger warnings for its students. This is to promote free thinking, inclusion of all ideas, and free speech.

I’m all about free speech (to a degree, hate speech should not be promoted) and free thinking and inclusion, but to not provide safe spaces and trigger warnings is problematic.

For one, these two things are not there solely for “special snowflakes”to use when they feel offended by the smallest things.

Safe spaces and trigger warnings are there for students who feel oppressed, mentally not okay or targeted, to use as an aid. For those with depression and anxiety or are mentally not healthy, trigger warnings are especially necessary. If the content showed in class will/might make a person suffer a panic attack, think of traumatizing experiences, or cry, then what good does that do? For veterans, if showing a clip about the war in Iraq, Afghanistan or any other place will trigger their PTSD, what’s the good? You’re making them suffer when they don’t have to. For a student who has either witnessed suicide, or has a friend who has committed suicide, then discussing suicide rates or discussing the topic will only make them think about their traumatic experience.

Safe spaces are places where students who feel targeted can eat lunch, take a nap, study or do whatever without constantly being on the lookout for hate and abuse. If a LGBTQ+ student is getting shit because of their gender or sexual orientation, why can’t they have a place to be themselves? If a POC is being targeted for their skin colour, why don’t they deserve a place to call home while at school? By not providing safe spaces, you’re giving their bullies the upper hand.

Obviously, safe spaces and trigger warnings aren’t the solution. They’re merely stepping stones to better mental health counselling and better education that deals with issues regarding oppression. More funding needs to be allocated to these issues, and less for building a new stadium or hiring a famous professor when there are already numerous teaching the same subject.



BEDA Day 17 +18: Music I’m obsessed with at the moment

(Sorry I haven’t been posting much, studying for my final exam that’s on Friday. Will get back to posting regularly after)

State Champs: The Finer Things, The Acoustic Things

Neck Deep: December (singles)

Troye Sivan: Blue Neighbourhood

Tegan and Sara: Love You to Death (LY2D)

Andy Black: The Shadow Side

Real Friends: The Home Inside My Head

Seaway: Colourblind


BEDA Day 13: Why I hate the word “triggered”

The word triggered used to be a warning for posts that might be too much for people with mental illnesses. A “trigger warning” was placed on posts that dealt with sensitive topics and it was helpful because one could know if they should continue reading an article or not.

Nowadays, “triggered” is a sick meme/joke that Men’s Rights Activists (MRAs) and people who regard feminists as entitled or “choose to seem oppressed when really aren’t” on issues that should be discussed in a serious manner.

Especially when debating/discussing LGBTQ+ issues, #BlackLivesMatter, the wage gap, and reproductive issues, MRAs who can’t seem to present their opinions like an adult, either write “triggered” or post the “lady staring at computer screen feeling triggered” as if that will shut the other party up.

“Triggered” is being used to shame women and other people fighting for justice and hoping they’ll back down.

What these MRAs don’t realize, is that we’re not going to back down. How else is the world going to change for the greater good?


BEDA Day 11: Gender neutral bathrooms

I’m in favour of gender neutral bathrooms. #repealHB2

Even though I am a genderqueer person who uses the pronoun “she”, I completely understand when genderqueer people don’t feel comfortable using gendered bathrooms. The same goes for transgender people, especially those who feel unsafe using gendered bathrooms.

I am so glad that Simon Fraser University, the school I attend, has recently built quite a few gender neutral bathrooms as well as gender neutral wheelchair friendly bathrooms. Not only are they present, they are also very clean and well built.

During Pride Week, SFU changed all the flags to rainbow pride flags, and it is amazing that this school welcomes and embraces the LGBTQ+ community with open arms.

I am very proud to be at a school that doesn’t stand for bigotry and hatred.


BEDA Day 10: Olympic Humour

Watching the 2016 Olympic Games in Rio has been making me like a right failure.

Like seriously, Penny Oleksiak is 16 years old and winning silver and bronze in swimming. What was I doing when I was 16 years old? Nothing, that’s what. I was in high school almost failing out of math class and about to quit karate.

Katie Ledecky is 19 and has broken her own world record 5 times in a year. She has won more medals than I own karate belts. I barely accomplished anything last year. I’ve barely accomplished anything this year too.

Well, here’s to watching the Olympics while falling deeper into a quarter life crisis.


BEDA Day 6: Cheesecake Recipe

This is my favourite cheesecake recipe!



250g digestives

1/2 butter



2 cups cream cheese

1/2 cup + 1tbsp sugar

Zest of 1 lemon

1 tsp vanilla

2 tbsp flour

4 eggs (crack in one at a time)


Bake at 160°C for 45 minutes. Enjoy! 


BEDA Day 4 + 5: A poem for Her 

The metal wedged between the silk web above your enchanting eyes and I can’t help but gaze at it longingly wishing your head was on my shoulder as we consume tea in a little coffee shop that is as welcoming as I find the way you speak.

Your confidence is intimidating but that only makes me fall harder knowing you are not afraid to be exactly who you want to be.

I feel all of the cocoons breaking at once as you brush past me my heart tap dancing ferociously when we’re in the same room.

Your smile is a thousand watt lightbulb.

Your face is one that I want to snapshot and revisit when I’m feeling like I’m straighter than ever.

You say the wrong things but are they really the wrong things because I don’t find hesitation in your voice.

You are unattainable and I’ll have to be okay with that.