Dresses.

When I was little, my mom dressed me
up in pretty dresses, whether it be floral or patterned or colourful. She put Mary Janes on my feet and braided my hair.

As I got older, around 10 years old, she stopped dressing me how she wanted to, for the most part, and let me go shopping with her to pick out my own clothes. That was when I started dressing a bit boyish. Neither of us really cared, because I still was feminine enough.

At 13, when I started high school, she left me to my own devices. She didn’t force me to buy dresses or pretty skirts or dressy shoes. So from then on, I basically lived in dark skinny jeans, T-shirts, hoodies and converse/vans.

Now, I’m 18 and have just started university. I still dress like a tomboy and I’m totally okay with that, but my mom’s not. She believes that “now that I’m older”, I should start dressing like a girl again. I should start wearing the skirts and dresses at the back of my closet and ditch the skinny jeans that I wear on a regular basis. I should stop styling my hair in an “emo” side part and part it in the middle. Because her logic is “you’re older, you’re considered an adult, you should start dressing like one. Stop being too lazy to make yourself look decent and pretty and wear something other than Vans”

But the thing is, why do I need to change myself just because I’m older? I’m still only 18 and a freshman in university. Most of the people at school dress the same way I do or worse. Boys are not shallow enough to only like you if you dress well. They care about your personality too. Wearing a dress will not make “all the boys come to your yard” and a pair of fancy shoes will not do the job either.

You do not need to look a certain way for society to accept you as a woman. There is no rule saying that a dress equals elegant lady while skinny jeans equals downtown east side.

-EVA

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That Does Not Count as a Mistake

Most of you should have heard–if you watch YouTube videos or are part of the YouTube community–about Sam Pepper and Veeoneeye (Jason) and that they were both accused of rape.

Sam, since when has touching/pinching women’s butts on the street become a social experiment? Is that what people justify it as nowadays? Because to me, doing that counts as sexual harassment. AND the fact that you (Sam) had to explain it as a “social experiment” only after you were in hot water for the so called “experiment”. Thats just plain wrong.

Also, you can’t text a girl, become friends with her or go on a date with her, just so you can lead her into a back room to try and grope her. And when she allows you to kiss her, you have no right to go further. She NEVER GAVE YOU PERMISSION! She said you can kiss her. But nothing else. Don’t go blaming the girl after you behave inappropriately. IT’S YOUR FAULT, OWN UP TO IT!

Now onto Jason. Before, I was subscribed to him, and I liked watching his videos. I thought his hair was pretty fucking cool and he was an interesting guy. But his half-assed apology to the girl 7 years younger than him isn’t right.

It’s not a mistake that you got a girl drunk and took advantage of her. Even though you didn’t have sex with her, it’s still statuary rape because you were getting an underage girl drunk. You probably also kissed her. Also, the whole “I didn’t know anything about the world/society, I was learning” is a shitty excuse. Learning means taking it slowly step by step, it does not mean being idiotic enough to take advantage of a girl when still trying to figure society out.

(However, the fact that this is only coming out into the light now worries me, why didn’t the girl do something about it earlier?

Also, please don’t be accepting drinks the other gives you and DON’T INVITE THEM OVER. They will get the wrong idea)

Please think things through before doing anything. And when you do something wrong, don’t pass it off as a mistake. Own up to your wrongdoings.

-EVA